Curls & Twirls

The other day I was talking to a friend of mine about relationships. She still hadn’t gotten over her ex – who claimed to simply have “lost interest” in the entire romance. The reason seemed harsh yet honest. Although I love my friend (Let’s call her X for easy reference, hehe!) and really feel her pain – and sometimes I wish I could just slap X’s ex (haha..that’s a tongue-twister!) for hurting her so much … I do understand X’s ex (let’s call him Y to avoid tongue forming into a knot!). I don’t blame him if he “lost interest” …he can’t really do anything about it, can he? We don’t choose who we fall in love with, and we can’t choose to stay in love either. (Or in-like. However you want to put it.)

But what is it with some of us that we just can’t stay focused! Why is it we can have a bestfriend for 10 years, and yet romance seems to sizzle out after a few months? Why is it when we’re away from home for a few days, we miss our smelly pillow that we sleep on day-in-day-out, and yet a few weeks away from our “other half” sometimes leaves us feeling disinterested? Why is it that it’s “out of sight, out of mind” instead of “distance makes the heart grow fonder” ?

I’m not a cynic when it comes to romance – really, I do believe there is love out there – my brother is a living testimony to it! (he married his first love, whom he’s been dating since he was 18! He tied the knot last year, aged 27!) But however much I wanna believe everyone’s love life is like a fairy-tale come true, most often I think we mistake infatuation, raging hormones and pretty clothes for Love. Perhaps it’s the way Hollywood - or Bollywood, has portrayed it. Somehow love needs to involve great sex (Thank you, Carrie Bradshaw!), Barry White singing in some uncontrollable-cerebral (medical students : sound oxymoronic? Hehe!) part of our brain (I quote Ally McBeal) and in most Hindi shows – a funeral, marriage or murder. Lol. Perhaps love is so simple – we almost seem to miss it?

I really don’t know what makes a relationship, and unfortunately, I lack experience too * sniff sniff* . I don’t know why some relationships seem to last eternity, while others are over within a blink of an eye. I don’t know why some people are over their ex as fast as Simon Cowell comes up with insults, while others moan and groan till the turn of the century before they’re ready to move on. Basically, I don’t know what that x-factor is. I hope I find it someday, though. Till then, I think I’ll just continue to mistake raging hormones and pretty-eyed boys for romance.